Ask Pat: Did I say yes to the dress too soon?

Dear Pat: I went wedding gown shopping last month, and fell in love with a dress at the very first store I visited–I had wanted a V-neck ballgown, and I found what I thought was the perfect one. I thought about it overnight and went back to the salon to purchase it the very next day. Then this week I went to a different bridal salon intending to shop for bridesmaids dresses, but I got so distracted by the beauty of their wedding gowns that I found myself asking to try a few on, and really loved a few other styles. Did I say yes to my dress so soon? Now I feel like I might be missing out on better styles out there. 

It’s not uncommon to second guess your wedding gown decision–it’s a tough choice to make, especially when there really are so many truly beautiful dresses out there! As you said, it was exactly what you were looking for, you thought about it overnight and you were positive it was “the one,” so no, I don’t think you said yes to a dress so soon.

We strongly recommend NOT trying on more gowns after you’ve found the perfect one as it can lead to second-guessing, but as you already have done that, I would suggest returning to the first bridal salon to re-try the dress you said yes to. Once you’re in it again, it’s likely that all the happy feelings you had about the dress will return, and you’ll remember why you thought it was perfect. Hopefully that will make you confident that you did make the right decision.

Have a question you’re dying to ask a bridal consultant? Email pat@sealedwithakissbridal.com with your question, and our consultants will be more than happy to help–you might even see your question on the blog!

 

Ask Pat: I saw a dress online that I love, how can I track it down?

Dear Pat: I’ve been to a few bridal shops now and have a couple styles I really like, but a couple months ago I saw a picture of a dress online that I really loved and I just can’t get it out of my head. I know the designer and style and have called a few local places looking for it, but they don’t carry that designer. What’s the best way to go about tracking it down?

The best place to start is the designer’s website! Most designers have a page where they list their retailers, or stores that carry their designs. Look for the retailers closest to you and give them a call. If they don’t have the particular style you’re looking for, it couldn’t hurt to ask if they could get it. Often times designers have a loaner gown program, where they can send a requested dress to one of their retailers for a limited time–just keep in mind that there’s sometimes a charge for this service. Also ask if they’ll be hosting any trunk shows by this designer, since they will often be sent a variety of designs by that designer that they do not typically have in store. They might not be able to guarantee that the dress will be part of the trunk show, but often there’s a good chance!

Have a question you’re dying to ask a bridal consultant? Email your questions to pat@sealedwithakissbridal.com and one of our experienced consultants will be more than happy to help. Your question might even make it on the blog! 

Coming this April: Justin Alexander Trunk Show!

We are so excited to announce our Justin Alexander Trunk Show at Sealed With A Kiss Charlottesville this April!

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During the trunk show we will have a number of gowns by Justin Alexander not usually available in store for brides to try on, and special pricing will be available on trunk show gowns. It’s the perfect time to say yes to the dress!

Appointments are strongly preferred, so be sure to schedule yours soon!

Just call 434-979-5683 or request an appointment online at http://sealedwithakissbridal.com/appointment.

Learn More About Justin Alexander Bridal

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Designs in the Justin Alexander collection are timeless and elegant. The gowns are vintage-inspired, reminiscent of the classic gowns of the 1950s, but always with a modern edge.

The dresses are designed to create fabulous silhouettes, perfectly accentuating the figure of every bride. We also love the fabulous details incorporated into the designs, from the stunning bead work…

to the gorgeous back designs….

to the perfectly designed necklines.

It’s easy to see why brides love Justin Alexander dresses.

To see more of his designs, visit http://www.justinalexanderbridal.com.  And don’t forget to schedule your appointment for the Justin Alexander Trunk Show at Sealed With A Kiss!

Wedding Gown Style: Transformer Dresses

What is a transformer dress, you might ask? It’s a gown that comes with extra pieces–like an overskirt, detachable train or bolero–that, when worn with the gown, completely “transform” the original look. Here’s an example of a transformer gown with an overskirt:

Here’s the dress-

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And now here’s that same dress worn with an overskirt-

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The skirt completely changes the look of the dress, right? Brides will often wear the overskirt for the ceremony and remove it for the reception–guests often think it’s a completely different dress. For brides who really love both the ballgown and fitted looks, a transformer dress is a great way to get to wear both on your big day.

For brides who love the ballgown or a-line look but are afraid that it might keep them from dancing the night away at the reception, a transformer dress with an overskirt could be the perfect answer to your problem! Take a look at this gown from Lillian West

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The ruffled skirt on this dress is actually an overskirt! Once it’s removed, it reveals this short lace gown, which you surely can dance the night away in on your big day.

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Overskirts aren’t the only way to transform a dress–take a look at this design

This gown comes with a removable wrap that can be used to add straps to this strapless a-line silhouette. It attaches with lace covered buttons on the sides of the dress, so brides can easily remove and reattach the wrap as they please.

Here’s a gown with a removable lace bolero:

Some brides will even opt to have both an overskirt and a bolero! It gives them more freedom to change their look throughout the wedding day. Take a look–here’s the dress as is:

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Now here’s the dress with a detachable bolero (we love the split sleeves on this look):

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Now here’s the dress with both the bolero and the overskirt:

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Amazing how these extra accessories truly transform a dress, don’t they?

So, how can you turn your wedding gown into a transformer dress? It’s easy! Many designs nowadays come with the option to order  a matching bolero or overskirt, you just need to ask your consultant about this option. If not, speak to your seamstress! Here at Sealed With A Kiss we work with a lot of brides to create custom boleros and overskirts, and in this way we help brides create a truly custom look. If you’re local, just send an email to pat@sealedwithakissbridal.com to set up a time to meet with us and discuss your options!

Ask Pat: Do I need a separate dress for my wedding reception?

Hi Pat! I recently went wedding gown shopping and have found that I really love the look of ball gowns, but I’m concerned about being able to dance in it, especially with the long train dragging behind me! If I do decide to get a ball gown, should I get a different dress for the reception? I just want to be sure I’ll be able to bust a move on my wedding day.

Just because you’re getting a ball gown dress doesn’t mean you necessarily need a second dress in order to comfortably dance the night away. Often once the dress is in your size and altered to fit properly, you’ll find that moving around in it is much easier than when you tried on the store sample. Having a bustle built into the dress to get the train out of the way will also help so much–it will keep you (and your guests) from stepping on it.

All that being said, if you’re planning a big first dance number or you know you’ll want to be completely unencumbered by the many layers most ball gowns have, then getting a second reception dress is definitely a good idea! Your dress shouldn’t get in the way of you having a great time at your wedding.

Have a question you’re dying to ask a bridal consultant? Email your questions to pat@sealedwithakissbridal.com and one of our experienced consultants will be more than happy to help. Your question might even make it on the blog!

Ask Pat: What should I do if my daughter and I have different opinions about her wedding gown?

Dear Pat: I will be helping my daughter shop for her wedding gown in a couple of weeks, but am worried about upsetting her with my opinions on dress styles. I love my daughter, but know from past experiences shopping with her that we do not see eye-to-eye on most things. She has already sent me pictures of styles she’s interested in, and they are nothing close to what I had in mind for her. I want her to love her dress and be happy, but I am afraid that I might ruin her shopping experience if I speak my mind. How would you advise I handle this? 

Chances are if you’re worried about differing opinions on the wedding dress, your daughter is as well. She likely knows that you disagree with the styles she’s interested in, but she wants you to be there by her side when she says yes to the dress because she loves you, and she respects your opinion. The key to you both having a great shopping experience will be to keep in mind exactly what you just told me–you want her to love her dress and be happy. When she asks what you think about a dress be honest with her about certain elements of the dress you like and dislike, but remind her that you want her to have what she wants regardless of your opinion. If you sense she’s fallen in love with a dress, be supportive. Just remember that she’s your daughter, and you’ll be glad you had the chance to share the shopping experience with her.

Ask Pat: What ball gown styles are good for a hot summer wedding?

 

Dear Pat: I’m getting married in August and am concerned about getting a gown that I won’t sweat through on my big day. I really want a ball gown, but all the ones I’ve tried on so far have tons of layers and feel really heavy and hot. What kind of styles would you recommend for me? Should I give up on finding a ball gown that will work and choose another silhouette? 

Since our Virginia summers can be so hot and humid, many of our brides pose this same question to us all the time. You absolutely can find a style you love and also be comfortable in on your big day. The key to finding a dress you won’t get too hot in, particularly a ball gown style, is choosing a gown with the right fabric and structure. Here are a couple of examples.

 

The gowns above may look heavy based on the layers and fullness of the skirts, but they are actually quite airy! Both have skirts that are made from layers of soft tulle and netting, which are lightweight. Looking out for these kinds of fabrics will you help you find a style that is comfortable, and won’t get too hot on your big day. But if you’re not a fan of tulle or netting, never fear! There are more options for you. Take the chiffon and silk styles below:

Chiffon is wonderfully lightweight and absorbent, and designers are able to drape it very easily, resulting in beautiful skirts like the one pictured on the left. The gown on the right is a well-designed gown made from a single layer of lightweight Thai silk, which holds its shape very nicely. Both would be great choices for a summer wedding.

If you prefer an all-over lace look, you can absolutely find a style that will be lightweight enough for summer. Just choose a look with minimal layers, and laces like chantilly, that have a light and airy feel.

 

Have a question you want to ask a real bridal consultant? Email your questions to pat@sealedwithakissbridal.com. Your question might even be featured on the blog!