Ask Pat: Why is saying yes to the dress so hard?

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Photo Credit: Jenn Finazzo Photography

Pat: I’ve been shopping for a wedding gown for about two months now, and I just can’t seem to commit to one. At the very first shop I went to I found a dress I thought was “the one,” but didn’t want to say yes to a dress at the first store I visited–I felt like I needed to see what else was out there. Since then I have found two more dresses I really love, but I just haven’t had one of those bridal moments where I put on the dress and just know that this is the perfect one. Will I ever have one of those moments? I know I could probably be happy enough with one of the three dresses I’ve found, but how am I supposed to know which one to choose if I don’t feel more special in one than the other? What if the perfect dress is still out there and I just need to find it?

It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed! That tends to happen after you’ve visited a lot of bridal boutiques, and my best advice is to stop looking at new dresses. The more dresses you try on the more confused you will become, and the more you’ll begin to doubt yourself. This will just make deciding on a gown even more difficult.

I know many brides expect to have that moment where they slip into a dress and realize it’s “the one”–it’s a moment dramatized over and over again in movies and in shows like Say Yes to The Dress. The fact is, however, that not every bride is going to have this moment, and that’s okay! Every bride is different, so we shouldn’t expect every bride’s wedding gown shopping experience to be exactly the same.

That being said, if you’re not the type of bride who will have that moment of realization when you’ve found the perfect dress, it can be a little harder to determine which dress is “the one.” As in your case, you might end up visiting several bridal shops and finding several gowns you love.

When this happens, and when you begin to feel stressed by the shopping experience, it’s time to stop trying on new styles. Instead, think about the options you’ve already found. Try to remember how you felt in each dress. Does one stand out in your memory? Was there one you really could imagine yourself walking down the aisle in?

If you can’t remember the gowns well enough, try booking appointments to re-try on each of the dresses you have in mind (and just those dresses!). It’s best to do this alone or with just one family member or close friend who you know will be supportive. Trying on the favorites back to back should make it easier to discern which of the gowns you truly love best.

Often the feelings you had about each gown will return when you see yourself in it again–or you might find you don’t feel the same about the dress at all during this second look.Be sure to try on each gown with veils and accessories so that you can visualize the full look you’ll have on the big day.

In the end, go with your gut. You likely know which dress is “the one,” but aren’t trusting yourself to make the decision for one reason or another. Take a deep breath, get the insecurities out of your mind, and choose whatever makes you happy. No matter what you choose, you will look and feel beautiful on your wedding day.

Augusta Jones Bridal Trunk Show this September!

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This September is the perfect time to fall in love with a design by Augusta Jones Bridal. Sealed With A Kiss will be hosting Augusta Jones Bridal Trunk Shows in both Charlottesville and Richmond.  During this time we will have designs by Augusta Jones not typically in our store, and brides who say yes to an Augusta Jones dress will receive a 10% trunk show discount.

Sealed With A Kiss Richmond Trunk Show Dates: September 9th-13th. Call 804-393-2041 for appointments.

Sealed With A Kiss Charlottesville Trunk Show Dates: September 14th-17th.                       Call 434-979-5683 for appointments.

Learn more about Augusta Jones Bridal

Classic gowns for the modern bride–that is what Augusta Jones Bridal stands for.

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When you browse their collection you’ll find shapes and silhouettes you’re familiar with–form fitting mermaid gowns, figure flattering a-lines and shop-stopping ballgowns. But what sets Augusta Jones apart is there clever design work and attention to detail.

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All Augusta Jones Bridal dresses are made ‘bespoke,’ which means that brides can easily customize the gown to better suit their personal styles–from changing necklines to switching out fabrics, the options for customizing their gowns are endless.

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Besides the innovative designs, Augusta Jones focuses on selecting only the highest quality laces and fabrics for their gowns. Brides feel luxurious and beautiful every time they slip into an Augusta Jones gown. It’s no wonder so many brides choose to wear an Augusta Jones gown on their wedding day.

Ask Pat: What size should I order for my wedding dress if I’m planning on losing weight before the wedding?

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Dear Pat: It’s about ten months before the wedding and I know that I have found the perfect dress, but I have held off on actually ordering it because I have been steadily losing weight and hope to lose more before the wedding day. Should I order the dress in the size I anticipate being at the time of the wedding? What do I do?

We strongly advise meeting with a stylist or an experienced tailor to discuss your situation, but usually the best plan of action in this case is to order the dress for the size you are now, or at most one size down. Yes, chances are that if you lose a lot of weight the dress will then need to be taken in drastically during alterations, but in most cases it is much easier for a gown to be taken in than to be let out. If you order a smaller size and the dress does not fit, there may not be a lot of extra material left in the side seams to make the dress bigger. Should this happen it could very difficult and in some cases impossible to make it fit. It is much safer to order the bigger size.

Have a question you’re dying to ask a bridal consultant? Email your questions to pat@sealedwithakissbridal.com and one of our experienced consultants will be more than happy to help. Your question might even make it on the blog! 

 

Real Sealed With A Kiss Bride- Maitland and Austin

 

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Photography by Wendell Powell Studio

Our Sealed With A Kiss bride Maitland married the love her life Austin on November 14, 2015 at Christ Episcopal Church here in Charlottesville.

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Photography by Wendell Powell Studio

Before Maitland came to see us during her search for a wedding gown, she had come across this silk ball gown with a beaded neckline online, and it was love at first sight. When she came in for her appointment she showed us a picture of this gown and said she was looking for something similar–turns out, we had that very Justin Alexander Signature dress here in our store. She said yes to the dress that afternoon.

Maitland and Austin’s ceremony was followed by a reception at Farmington Country Club, where friends and family couldn’t wait to start celebrating.

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Photo by Wendell Powell Photography

We know these two have many happy years to look forward to. Congratulations again Maitland and Austin!

Vendors:

Dress: Sealed With A Kiss, Photographer: Wendell Powell Studio, Hair and Makeup: Salon Cielo, Flowers: Marion’s Flowers, Band: Sam Hill Entertainment’s Attraction, Bus: Blue Ridge Tours.

Wedding Gown Style: Necklines 101

Brides are often surprised by how many different necklines they encounter while wedding gown shopping, so we’ve put together this list of popular neckline styles to help you find the cut you like best!

  1. Sweetheart Neckline
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    Left Photo: Courtesy of Augusta Jones Bridal, Center and Right Photos: Courtesy of Justin Alexander

    Sweetheart necklines are one of the most popular necklines, and for good reason! Named for their resemblance to the curves at the top of a traditional heart shape, this neckline is universally flattering. While most brides associate sweetheart necklines with strapless gowns, you can certainly find sweetheart necklines on gowns with sleeves and straps.

2. V-Neckline

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Left Photo: Courtesy of Modern Trousseau, Center Photo: Courtesy of Justin Alexander, Right Photo: Courtesy of Augusta Jones

V-necklines are also popular on wedding gowns! Brides love the cut, and many choose to customize their gown by lowering or raising the neckline.

3. Queen Anne Neckline

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Photos Courtesy of Justin Alexander

There are many variations of the Queen Anne neckline, but they all have one thing in common: a raised back. The style has always been a classic, but has been recently popularized by the wedding gown worn by the Duchess Katherine of Cambridge. Brides who prefer having a little more coverage up top will love the look.

4. Boatneck/Sabrina Neckline

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Left Photo: Courtesy of Augusta Jones Bridal, Center Photo: Courtesy of Justin Alexander, Right Photo: Courtesy of Modern Trousseau

Boatneck (also known as bateau) and Sabrina necklines are very similar–they both follow the line of the collarbone. While boatnecks follow the collarbone very closely, Sabrina necklines will be cut a bit lower. The cut creates a very elegant look

5. Jewel Neckline 

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Photos Courtesy of Justin Alexander

Jewel necklines are round and closely follow the neck. Jewel necklines tend to give wedding gowns a modern and sleek look that brides love!

6. Portrait Neckline portrait

Portrait necklines are so named because they are styles that frame the collarbone, much like a portrait. These necklines have sleeves that rest on the tip of the shoulder blade, providing a variation of the off-the shoulder look.

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The scoop necklines are another popular neckline on wedding gowns! Their wide rounded shape shows off the collarbone and is another universally flattering shape.

Ask Pat: Who should I bring to my bridal appointment?

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Dear Pat: I scheduled my first bridal appointment, and I would like for my parents, grandmother, soon to be mother in law and my bridesmaids (4 of them!) to be there, but that seems like a lot of people! Who do brides usually bring to their bridal appointment? Should I try to narrow down the number of people I’m bringing?

I know it’s tempting to invite as many family members and friends to your appointment as possible, but more people means more opinions and that has the potential to make bridal shopping stressful–especially during the first bridal appointment! I usually advise brides to think about three or four people who are supportive and whose opinions will matter the most–those are the ones you want with you when you’re trying on wedding gowns for the first time. Most of our brides will come in with one or both parents and a friend. If you feel you need to include other family members or friends in the gown process, consider scheduling a second appointment to show them just your top choices, or have them accompany you to your fittings after your dress comes in.

Wedding Style Inspiration- Hair Accessories!

Not sure what hair accessory will complement your wedding day style? Then look no further, Sealed With A Kiss has got you covered! Look through some of our favorite headbands, combs and tiaras and you’re sure to find one that works well with your style.

  1. Want a hair piece that is truly going to make a statement? Then this headband may be perfect for you! It features delicate hand beading, sweeping crystals and hand made floral designs.
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Photo Courtesy of Richard Designs

2. Perhaps you’re planning on having your hair styled into a pretty updo and want a small piece that will accent your chignon? Then this elegant hair vine barrette may be the perfect accessory for you! It has strands of crystal, freshwater pearls and rhinestones. This piece is made flexible to add versatility to how it’s placed in your hair.

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Photos Courtesy of Laura Jayne Bridal

3. Perhaps your style is a little off-beat chic? Then you’ll love this dramatic hair ribbon with matte crystal and beautifully draped stones.

4. This side tiara with silver beaded applique is perfect for the bride who wants add a touch of vintage glam to her wedding day look. The headband is ideal for brides wearing their hair down on their wedding day.

5. If a boldly beaded headpiece isn’t for you, try this pearl and crystal halo! This delicate piece adds a touch of romance to your wedding day look.

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Photo Courtesy of Laura Jayne Bridal

6. For  brides looking to channel their inner queen, this tiara is ideal! It features extra sparkly silver crystals, and is a true statement piece!

7. Maybe gold pieces are more your style? If so, this five piece gilt foliage pin set is sure to complement your look beautifully! It features delicate tendrils of crystals and freshwater pearls.

 

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Photo courtesy of Laura Jayne